How to Lead a Core Group

One of the primary roles of the LifeGroup Leader is to develop the Core Group. This is a multiplication of leadership for the growth and health of everyone. Having a developed Core Group benefits the group and the leader as follows:

• It enables the LifeGroup Leader to empower others and help them grow as they carry more weight. 

• There is increased buy-in from more people in the group and more people are equipped to positively influence the culture and health of the group.

• A Core Group is the basis for future multiplication because it is the beginning step for developing future leaders.

• Empowering others also lightens the load of leadership as the leader distributes responsibilities. A lighter load helps with the longevity of leadership.  Below is the ideal organizational structure for Core Groups divvying out responsibilities to maximize missional and care efforts.

Below is how you can help lead and develop your LifeGroup to become a healthy Core Group:

1. Encourage members to take the 201: LifeGroup Class and become an official Core Group Member.

   Make specific invitations and narrate its importance for their personal growth and for the health of the group. 

2. Distribute LifeGroup Roles to all Core Group Members and narrate why you are giving them that role based on personality tests and giftedness. 

3. Regularly communicate with your Core Group. 

   • Create a separate GroupMe for Core Group members to communicate regularly. 

   • Sync up monthly or at least quarterly to celebrate growth, to evaluate the health of the group, to discuss major issues, to review the covenant, to redistribute roles, to discuss multiplication plans and any next steps for the next 6 months. 

   • Plan a yearly core group retreat to get away with your Core Group. The goal of the retreat should be primarily relational (making memories and group bonding), but also include spiritual development. 

4. Write, evaluate and rewrite the LifeGroup covenant every 6 months or at least once per year.

   This is an effort to maintain the right culture and expectations for your group. 

How to Correct and Confront Individual Sin

Do you enjoy confrontation? Few people do. Confrontation is hard because it exposes many fears and insecurities we’d rather not address, but we are called to graciously confront each other to prevent sin from causing further damage. Because we know the devastating effects of sin, we are called to be ministers of reconciliation- which means loving others the way Jesus has loved us (2 Corinthian 5:16-21, 1 John 1:7).  

Here are some practical steps to effectively and graciously confront each other. 

Steps

1. Find Scriptural evidence that directly confronts the behavior, attitude or action. (We want to make sure it is not just a preference issue or different personality)

2. Pray about the issue.

   Pray about your heart. Pray for their heart Separate your hurt feelings or annoyances and humble yourself.

3. Involve your Core Group and give your Coach a heads up that you plan to confront the sin.

4. Set up a time to meet one on one with the person

5. Prepare some open-ended questions to explore the underlying issues.

6. Begin the conversation with encouragement, love, and relationship building

   • “I love that you bring __________ to our group”

   • “I have seen God doing __________ in your life”

   • “I appreciate your friendship because __________”

7. Explain what a blind spot is and how they can be dangerous and that it is good, gracious, and loving to have people point them out

8. Cite a specific example of the sin in question.

   • Name an explicit event or comment and ask if they remember it.

   • Explain what was perceived and why it is concerning.

   • Share scripture and give them a chance to respond.

   • Ask clarifying questions.

9. Communicate that you care more about their heart than their actions and that you care for them.

   • If they agree about their sin, discuss what repentance looks like and help them think through their next steps 

   • If they disagree about their sin, reiterate your love and follow up with your Coach about next steps. Continue to pray and reflect

Why is it good?

• Sin kills us and separates us from God and other people.

• We have all been separated from God, but He saved us out of the bondage of sin, reconciling us to Himself and freeing us to an abundant life.

• We are compelled to be ministers of reconciliation, loving others as He has loved us, which includes confronting the sin.

How to Deal with Difficult People that Affect Group Dynamics

While it’s our aim that most members of the group help create a healthy group dynamic, this person seems to be doing just the opposite. So we’re left wondering what we’re supposed to do, and our selfishness tempts us to exclude and view them as a problem. However, God calls us to care for them, trusting that He will create good things out of a challenging situation. In Luke 6:32-33 Jesus challenges his followers to do the same, saying:

“If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what benefit is that to you? “

If we trust God and strive to do his will even when we don’t want to, God will use these challenging situations to shape us to be new creations, made in the image of Jesus. With the help of other LifeGroup members and Core Group members, your LifeGroup can grow by accepting every member in spite of their sin and extending grace to them, in the same way Jesus extends grace to you. 

With the help of some practical steps, you can care for each other as God intended us to care for each other as brothers and sisters in Christ:

1. Identify the difficult behavior:

   1. Insecure - does not share due to fear or shame

   2. Oversharers - lacking in self-awareness and limits others participation

   3. Challengers - can dominate and control 

   4. Disengaged - spiritually or mentally apathetic 

   5. Actively sinning/unrepentant

   6. Etc. 

2. Pray to see your own biases, areas of weakness, and weakness within the group.

   Is their difficult behavior prompting in you a sinful reaction like bitterness, anger, or cynicism? Consider Matt 7:1-5. Before you speak with them, examine your heart.

3. Pray for the person and show love towards them.

   Prayer surrenders control to God and builds unity. As you continue to pray, the Lord will build your affection for them. Pray for them for more time than you will confront them.

   C.S. Lewis’s words are helpful here:

   “Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.”

   In other words - are you having a hard time loving them? Act as though you do and generally, your feelings will catch up.

   Similarly, in her memoir, Thérèse of Lisieux describes her way of dealing with difficult people, calling it “the Little Way.” Basically, she made it a practice that if there was anyone who annoyed her, to intentionally go out of her way to approach them, with a warm smile on her face, and engage in conversation. In this, she saw that Jesus was using such people in her life to teach her more about her need for grace and less about her need to “fix” the other person.

4. Discuss with some Core Group members.

   Engaging Core Group guides them towards leadership and knowing how to respond to similar situations in the future. 

   • Do they notice the problem, and do they have any potential solutions?

   • Are there any Core Group members who are thinking and acting sinfully towards them? If so, direct them to pt. 2 and 3.

   • Who is (are) the best person(s) to meet with the difficult person? 

5. Prepare for a one-on-one meeting with the person. Anticipate and prepare for resistance and confrontation. Contact Coach if needed.

   • Recognize this is a discipleship opportunity. Showing people where they have a challenge can help it become a strength.

     • “I love you and I want Jesus for you, and because of that, I want to bring something to your attention that you may not be aware of.”

   •  Use direct communication to identify the specific behavior and its negative impact on the group.  

     • “When you do _______, my perception is ______”

   • Give them specific steps to help them grow in this area.

     • “I would ask moving forward you do ________. What are your thoughts on this?

   • Redirect and redeem their weaknesses. Meaning, affirm what is good and redirect the good for the benefit of the group. 

     • “I’m thankful for you, and I’m glad you’re in our group. Again, I want Jesus for you and your relationship with Jesus is more important than our friendship, so thank you for taking the time to listen to me.”

6. Follow up as needed. 

   Gracious follow-through shows genuine care.

Leveraging LifeGroup Guides for Mission

Let’s admit it. Talking about “mission” can be intimidating. As soon as it’s brought up, we picture awkward conversations and blank stares.

As followers of Jesus, we want to be faithful witnesses and be normal around other people. Most of us probably wish that conversations centered around Jesus flowed naturally and often. 

But the reality is, you’re getting trained on this every week.

Our LifeGroups Guides, in part, equip you to see Jesus in the ordinary and talk about Him with others in natural, normal conversations.

If talking to non-Christians about Jesus seems unnatural, ask yourself, does talking to your LifeGroup about Jesus feel natural? 

If mission is a struggle for your LifeGroup, consider rethinking how LifeGroup Guides work. These guides are a means to an end for us to be a Jesus-centered family on mission. Let LifeGroup times act be the training ground for your group to improve how you do “mission”.

Consider each part of LifeGroup time:

1 - Catch Up on life

During this time we are training ourselves to grow in our awareness of God’s presence. We want to see reality the way He sees it. Our daily interactions throughout the day aren’t just random happenstance, those are divine appointments. Our day-to-day circumstances aren’t ordinary, those are gifts to thank God for. 

If Catch Up on Life is a struggle for you then consider praying something like this: “God help me see my life with you in mind. Help me to see everything you give as a gift. Help me see people the way you see them.” 

2 - Review the Mission

Who are the people in your life who don’t know Jesus? Are their people in your life who you don’t know if they don’t know Jesus? Consider what next steps look like for you - it may be introducing yourself to a neighbor or coworker for the first time, inviting a new acquaintance to a LifeGroup rhythm, initiating a spiritual conversation, inviting someone over for a meal. Whatever that is, resolve by the power of the Spirit, knowing God is with you. Fill your LifeGroup in on how your plan so they can hold you accountable.

3 - Sermon Discussion

By renewing our minds through Scripture, we are made more and more into the likeness of Jesus. This means more than just gathering information but seeing how the Bible applies in our day-to-day, allowing God to transform us, and talking about it casually and conversationally with the people in your LifeGroup. If you’re able to comfortably and fluently talk about the Bible around Christians, this better prepares you to talk about the Bible around nonChristians.

4 - Engage the Heart

During this portion, we recognize we are the chief of sinners and need God’s grace in our lives first before we can tell others about Him. Engage the Heart trains us to listen, practice empathy, ask follow-up questions, and ultimately tell others why the Gospel is good news for them. Gospel fluency in LifeGroup equips us to be gospel fluent outside of LifeGroup.

• Why is being on mission a challenge for your group?

• Each portion of LifeGroup time trains us to be more missional. What’s one portion you can focus on the next time you meet in order to better be on mission?

What is Examen Prayer?

The examen prayer (Latin for “examination”) is meant to be practiced at the end of each day, looking back and discerning God’s activity with an aim to grow in deeper awareness for the next day. By practicing this regularly we’re able to more quickly see God in the ordinary, live in a posture of godward gratitude, and regularly experience His presence. 

This prayer can be broken down in five steps: 

1. Recognize God’s presence

Hebrews 10:19-21 reminds us that, through Jesus, we have confidence to draw near to Him. In prayer, we actively step into the presence of God not in intimidation or guilt but in relational communication. He delights in spending time with you. Take some time to slow your mind down, let your body relax, and as you step into His presence, ask God to give you clarity and understanding as you review your day.

2. Recall God’s goodness

Walk through your day from morning to evening and, as 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “give thanks in all circumstances.” What did you do today? Who did you talk to? Even in the small things, give thanks - what brought delight to you today? Even if you find it difficult to give thanks, Lamentations 3:22-23 reminds us the Lord’s “mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.” In light of that, ask the Lord to give you insight on how you can express gratitude in all your circumstances.

3. Review the day

When were you most aware of Jesus’ presence? What did you do today out of reliance on the Spirit? What was that like? How did that happen? Express thankfulness for those moments and ask God to give you more opportunities to experience His presence.

When were you least aware of Jesus’ presence? What did you do today out of your own power and strength? What was that like? How did that happen? Scripture reminds us that He is with you always (Matt 2:23, 28:20). Ask God into those moments.

4. Repent

What sin(s) do you need to confess to God?

What are you struggling to trust God with? How can you give God control of it?

Has the Holy Spirit been prompting you to do anything that you’ve been resisting? What step(s) do you need to take to walk in obedience?

5. Resolve

Ask God to give you Spirit-filled guidance and power to be more aware of His presence tomorrow. You may even consider writing down specific next steps as a reminder.

Like other practices, this will be challenging at first. Stick with it. Eventually, this will get easier as you commit to this practice regularly.

• Which of these steps is the most challenging for you? Why?

• What do you need to do to incorporate this practice into your life?

Sermon Discussion - What it is and How to Improve It

God uses His Word to reveal Himself to us, equip us to live the good life He’s designed for us, show us our sin, and strengthen us as we follow Him. We preach the Word on Sundays and apply it as a LifeGroup during Sermon Discussion. (2 Timothy 3:16-17, Colossians 1:9-12 and James 1:22-25)

To grow in Sermon Discussion, here are a few tips:

1. Narrate early and often

As a leader, you know why it’s important to talk about Scripture but does your LifeGroup know? Before getting into Sermon Discussion, consider telling upfront what it is, why we do it, and why it’s good for us. (To narrate it, simply read the paragraph in italics underneath the Sermon Discussion heading.) Don’t be afraid to say this every week until people begin speaking up more. After a while, you may even quiz people before getting into the questions and ask, “Why do we do Sermon Discussion every week?”

2. Give the gift of going second

Your answering first helps set the tone for how you want others to answer. Encourage your Core Group prior to LifeGroup night to speak up too - they can help shoulder the weight of the LifeGroup by giving new/quiet people the gift of going second, too.

3. Don’t steal all the time and talking points

While you want to give others the gift of going second, be brief and concise enough to give others time to share. Again, this sets the tone for how you want others to answer. We want to be careful not to share for too long or share everything that can be said about a given question or topic. If this happens, simply narrate to the group next time to be mindful of everyone’s time.

4. Watch out for rabbit trails

This requires a lot of discernment but sometimes people will bring up a topic that doesn’t relate to the LifeGroup Guide specifically. If you think this rabbit trail is beneficial for the group, feel free to explore it. If not, gently steer them back on track by saying, “Ok, let’s get back to this question.”

5. Call on people 

If you feel comfortable with the people in your LifeGroup and can do it in a light-hearted way, call on people who aren’t speaking up or who look zoned out. Perhaps they have something to share and feel intimidated to speak up. Maybe there’s something on their mind and they just need you to snap them out of it so they can pay attention. Some of those questions you can ask as you call on people include:

• “Hey, ____ what do you think?”

• “_____, any thoughts?”

• “_______, how would you answer that?”

• “____, in light of what they shared, what does the Gospel have to say to that?”

6. Show warmth while others speak, thank them for sharing afterward

Can you imagine how intimidating it would be to bare your soul while people make no eye contact, and then get met with the sound of crickets when you’re done? To save someone from this, when someone speaks make eye contact, nod, smile if appropriate. As soon as someone finishes sharing, at the very least say, “Thanks for sharing.” At most, you may even say a follow-up statement or question to further the conversation.

7. WATCH OUT FOR phones

Before LifeGroup ask people to bring their Bibles and if possible, get someone to print copies the LifeGroup Guides so everyone can be phone-free. Some LifeGroups even put their phones in a pile in the middle of the room to avoid distraction. Maybe bring an extra Bible or two for that person who forgets to bring one. If people need to use their phone to follow along in the LifeGroup Guide or to read from a Bible app that’s fine, just make sure it doesn’t become a disruption.

If after all of this, Sermon Discussion is still an issue, share this resource with your LifeGroup and challenge them to speak up at the next LifeGroup meeting.

• Out of all these, what’s one thing you can do next time your LifeGroup meets to improve Sermon Discussion?

Meditating on Scripture

The Bible is a library written by God through men that tells a unified story that leads to Jesus. And as God’s people, we want to be guided by His Word and empowered by His Spirit to more fully experience the life and love of Jesus.

For most of church history, many followers of Jesus didn’t have personal access to the Bible.  The weekly reading of God’s Word, with an emphasis on listening and reflection, became the primary means by which people meditated on Scripture. This led to the practice of what is known as lectio divina - or divine reading in Latin.

This practice is primarily contemplative, which pending your church background may be different than what you’re used to. Lectio divina is not primarily about unpacking a text to pull out information, though there is a place for that. Rather, this practice is less about technique and more about cultivating stillness and silence as you make space to hear God’s Spirit through His Word.

Think about the practice like a friendship. When you get to know someone, you’re finding out new information and insights. But the point of that information is to lead you to a relationship. The more you spend time with someone, the less it is about discovering insights about them and more about just being with them. That being said, in lectio divina you’re still reading, reflecting, and responding but the emphasis is more contemplative.  

To get started, walk through the following steps (or movements) in order. If you’re looking for a book of the Bible to try this out, the Psalms or a teaching of Jesus in the Gospels are great places to start.

Before you begin, turn off your phone, get away from distraction, slow down, take a deep breath or say some breath prayers as we unbusy our minds to make room to hear the voice of God.

1. Lectio

Read a Scripture passage slowly. Imagine the original author is speaking the passage to you. If it’s a narrative, imagine you’re in the story watching this story first-hand. Consider paraphrasing the passage in your own words.

• What words catch your attention? 

• What phrases stand out to you?

2. Meditatio

Read the Scripture slowly a second time. Reflect on how the passage/words/phrases might apply to your life. 

• What does the passage reveal about people? 

• What does this passage reveal to us about God? 

Ask the Spirit for wisdom and discernment. Some questions to help could include the following:

• Is it relevant to something that you are going through? 

• Does it bring to mind a struggle that you have been dealing with? 

• Do certain people come to mind that God may want you to reach out to or reconcile a relationship with? 

• Is there a strong sense of a movement or change that needs to happen?  

3. Oratio

Read the Scripture a third time, being sensitive to how God’s Spirit might want you to respond. Make this interactive and conversational with God as you ask Him:

• Where do you need to obey what the passage is telling? 

• Where are you resistant or want to push back?

• What do you need to pray for?

Ultimately, the aim of our response is obedience. Obedience is, in a way, how we love God with all our strength. So if the passage prompts you about a poor relationship - that’s God’s Spirit speaking to you. Go seek reconciliation. If the passage reminds you to be thankful about something specific in your life, respond in thankfulness. If you’re anxious or overwhelmed about something in your life, then present it to the Lord. If the passage prompts a specific sin in your life, confess that sin to God knowing He is faithful and just to forgive you.

4. Contemplatio

Then lastly, we read one last time as we rest and wait in His presence. Allow some time for His Word to sink into your soul. Before you’re done with this practice, you might want to consider writing down what the Lord showed you as a reminder throughout the day.

It is important to remember the aim of lectio is to learn to just “be” with God.

For the first 1,500 years of church history, lectio divina (Latin for “divine reading”) was the primary spiritual practice people used to be with Jesus. Since most people were illiterate, the reading of Scripture in the church Gathering each week was vital for spiritual growth with a focus on being attentive and listening to God’s Word.

With that in mind, lectio divina is not an exercise in primarily in mentally critiquing or exegeting a text for the sake of pulling out information, rather, this practice exists to further your relationship with Jesus as He invites you into His presence through His Word.

To practice this, walk through the following steps (or movements) in order. You’ll notice this is similar to our how to study the Bible post, with an emphasis on practicing the presence of God.

* This resource was adapted from Spiritual Disciplines Handbook: Practices That Transform Us by Adele Ahlberg Calhoun and “Lection Divina” at Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/resources/scripture-engagement/lectio-divina/home

Mind Mapping

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Mind Map

Oftentimes, it’s easy to approach the Lord in prayer and struggle to put thoughts into words. The mind map is a simple tool to help you with just that.

There’s no “right way” to use this tool; simply look through the categories the mind map lists out and see if it sparks anything going on in your life right now. These categories may even help you think of other categories that aren’t listed on the tool. If that’s the case, write those thoughts down too.

As you finish writing out everything that’s going on in your mind, take this to God in prayer. Remember no matter what you’re going through He’s sovereign, so He can handle whatever it is. At the same time, God is good, so He delights to hear you in prayer.

• What stood out to you after using this tool?

• Is there anything going on with that you can be letting others in on?

Marriage Map

The Marriage Map works similarly to put thoughts into words as you interact with your spouse.

Like the Mind Map, there’s no “right” way to use this tool; let the categories serve as a launching pad with what you want to discuss.

Also as you work through this tool, make sure to talk through the Appreciation category before the Disclosure category rather than go straight to the Disclosure category. We’d also suggest using the script from the Disclosure category in order to more appropriately address any concerns you have.

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When Differences Become Divisive

In 1 Corinthians 3, Christians were arguing and dividing their church over personal preferences. Since there were no other churches in Corinth, when preferences weren’t being met, factions were formed. (To clarify, a “preference” is an opinion on an open-handed issue that is not central to the gospel, examples can include worship or preaching styles. In contrast, “convictions” are close-handed issues of major theological importance, often relating to salvation.)

Two thousand years later, followers of Jesus still  divide over similar issues. And while we don’t create factions within the church, the normative response when preferences aren’t met is to find a church that does. 

So what’s wrong with trying to find a church that most agrees with your preferences? 

The problem is,  when we elevate preferences to a primary level of importance,  we turn into consumers rather than covenant servants - we develop an attitude that says, “I’ll serve you only if you serve me first.” When Western consumerism like this takes hold, we miss out on a crucial opportunity to die to our desires and preferences for the sake of others.

Unity not Uniformity

When it comes to preferences, Jesus doesn’t call for uniformity - where we all agree on everything, from worship style, preaching style, groups style - He calls for unity, where we all agree on our convictions as prescribed in Scripture, (in other words, we want to major on what the Bible majors on.) So rather than leave or grow bitter over preferential differences, our call is to love, serve, and submit to others who think differently than you. 

When this happens, we become an anti-narrative to the “me”-centric culture in our world. We are telling others that Jesus is bigger than our preferences. What Jesus demands of us is bigger and better than our demands. 

Of First Importance

So while we must cling to the non-negotiable truths, (what Paul calls in 1 Corinthians 15:3 of first importance), we need to recognize that many issues are not worth fighting over or leaving. Instead, we should be quick to suspect our motives, quick talk to others with differing perspectives and quick to listen with a posture of humble understanding.

As we grow as a church family despite our differences, we can show the world a community where diversity is embraced without being divisive.

• Do you have any preferences you are lifting up as first importance?

• In what ways can you die to self to better love, serve, and submit to others?
  

How Bible Translations Work

If you're new to reading the Bible, a helpful tool is to know how different translations work.

All modern translations are based on the most accessible and earliest biblical manuscripts available. As scholars translate, they have an intended audience in mind as they select the right English words to communicate the author's intent. This means two things:

1 - Bible translations do not operate like the telephone game

In the telephone game, one person says something, then tells someone else, and so on, until the last person says something far from the original message. One assumption is this is how Bible translations work. This is not the case. Instead, translators want to be faithful to the text's original meaning, looking at the most reliable manuscripts available and contextualizing them to their audience. (The Preface of most major Bible translations will tell you what manuscripts they have access to and who the intended audience is.)

2 - All Bible translations have their strengths and weaknesses

All languages are the byproduct of their culture. Words in one context may mean something else in a different context. For example, "shame" in collectivist Eastern cultures implies something other than in individualist Western cultures. Similarly, Hebrew (the primary language of the Old Testament) was brought out of an ancient Near Eastern world. Because of this worldview, their language primarily reflects ancient Near Eastern values and ideas. For example, words like "law" and "truth" in Hebrew mean something different than how we use those words in our context. Greek (the primary language of the New Testament) operates differently than English. For example, "love" and "fellowship" have different connotations in the Grek than in English. All this to say, a perfect one-for-one Bible translation doesn't exist because Hebrew, Greek, and English are birthed from radically different cultures.

Any decent Bible translation knows this dilemma and thus explains why so many Bible translations are available. "Is it better to translate more word-for-word to get behind the original text of the Hebrew/Greek?" Or, "Is it better to translate more thought-for-thought to get behind the original meaning of the Hebrew/Greek?" Or is it some mix of the two?

Below is a chart with a brief explanation of the major Bible translations. We’d recommend using multiple translations and comparing them to gain a more comprehensive understanding of biblical passages. Below, you’ll also find a sampling of verses with different translations.

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Word for Word - These translations are based on finding a 1-for-1 from the original language to the English. Since biblical languages work differently than modern-day English, these translations can be, at times, hard to read.

Meaning for Meaning - These translations look to bridge the gap between faithfulness to the exact wording of the original language while also communicating the idea behind the author’s word choice.

Thought for Thought - Rather than word-for-word, these translations will try to communicate the author’s intent behind the original words while still maintaining exegetical faithfulness.

Paraphrase - These translations are generally not based on Hebrew and Greek manuscripts. Rather, they aim to be contextual and casual for a specific audience to understand.

Below are samplings of different translations using one translation from each category: word-for-word (NASB), meaning-for-meaning (GW), thought-for-thought (NLT), and paraphrase (The Message).

Psalm 2:7

New American Standard Bible (NASB)

"I will surely tell of the decree of the LORD: He said to Me, 'You are My Son, Today I have begotten You.' "

GOD'S WORD Translation (GW)

I will announce the LORD's decree. He said to me: "You are my Son. Today, I have become your Father."

New Living Translation (NLT)

The king proclaims the LORD's decree: "The LORD said to me, 'You are my son. Today I have become your Father.

The Message

Let me tell you what GOD said next. He said, “You’re my son, and today is your birthday."

Matthew 16:13

New American Standard Bible (NASB)

Now when Jesus came into the district of Caesarea Philippi, He was asking His disciples, “Who do people say that the Son of Man is?”

GOD'S WORD Translation (GW)

When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, “Who do people say the Son of Man is?”

New Living Translation (NLT)

When Jesus came to the region of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, “Who do people say that the Son of Man is?”

The Message

When Jesus arrived in the villages of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, “What are people saying about who the Son of Man is?”

2 Timothy 3:1-5

New American Standard Bible (NASB)

But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. [2] For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, [3] unloving, irreconcilable, malicious gossips, without self-control, brutal, haters of good, [4] treacherous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, [5] holding to a form of godliness, although they have denied its power; Avoid such men as these.

GOD'S WORD Translation (GW)

You must understand this: In the last days there will be violent periods of time. [2] People will be selfish and love money. They will brag, be arrogant, and use abusive language. They will curse their parents, show no gratitude, have no respect for what is holy, [3] and lack normal affection for their families. They will refuse to make peace with anyone. They will be slanderous, lack self-control, be brutal, and have no love for what is good. [4] They will be traitors. They will be reckless and conceited. They will love pleasure rather than God. [5] They will appear to have a godly life, but they will not let its power change them. Stay away from such people.

New Living Translation (NLT)

You should also know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. [2] For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. [3] They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control; they will be cruel and have no interest in what is good. [4] They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God. [5] They will act as if they are religious, but they will reject the power that could make them godly. You must stay away from people like that.

The Message

Don't be naive. There are difficult times ahead. [2] As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed, money-hungry, self-promoting, stuck-up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, [3] dog-eat-dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, [4] treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God. [5] They'll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they're animals. Stay clear of these people.

Praying Together

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, Paul writes, ‘Rejoice always, pray constantly, give thanks in everything; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus’.

Note, Paul is addressing a church. A group of people. Not just individuals. Looking at 1 Thessalonians again, “(You all) rejoice always, (you all) pray constantly, (you all) give thanks in everything; for this is God’s will for you (all) in Christ Jesus.

Recently, some members our my LifeGroup read the book Life Together by Deitrich Bonhoeffer.  In this book, he talks about ‘saying our prayers together’ within our community. After reflecting on this truth, our LifeGroup wanted to take action.

So here are some steps we’re currently taking to grow in prayer together:

1 - Schedule times to pray together outside of group time.

We recently started a prayer walk and invited our LifeGroup to come 30 minutes before group time to walk the neighborhood and pray. We pray for:

• Specific houses and businesses, and the opportunity to build community with them. 

• Houses for rent/sale. For God to bring the right people into those places. 

• Relationships between home-owners and college students in the neighborhood

• For neighbors by name, that they would come to know Jesus

Another way to pray together outside of group time is to create a Google document where people can sign up to pray on specific days for certain topics.

2 - Create more prayer roles within your LifeGroup.

Some groups have roles in LifeGroup for prayer collectors or leading prayer during LifeGroup.  Along with that, there are other ways to incorporate more prayer roles. Consider assigning someone to consistently pray, whether during or outside of group time, for the following:

• LifeGroup/church leaders  - for their spiritual health, wisdom, and humility as they trust God and lead

• Proactive Mission partnership - we partner with Epworth Children's Home, so we get to pray for them individually and ask for prayer requests from Student Groups for broader requests. 

• Reactive Mission - Individuals that your LifeGroup is building with

• The kids in your LifeGroup - For them to follow Jesus and for parents/LifeGroup to disciple them up

3 - Be consistent no matter what.

 ‘Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.’ Galatians 6:9.  

Keep praying together, even when it's hard and doesn’t go according to plan. It’s easy to have a plan in mind but over time get discouraged with the reality of real life.  This is where we get to persevere. A few reminders for when this happens:

• Don’t get caught up on how many people are coming, be faithful and celebrate who’s coming

• Combine prayer with times your LifeGroup is already together (i.e. before group time or rhythms)

• Share with others in the LifeGroup what you are praying for and how you have seen God be faithful

When we tried our prayer walking for the first time, only three of us could come.  But consistency is key. Since we’ve started doing this, I’ve seen our LifeGroup grow in praying for things instead of just talking about them.  I’ve seen us grow in unity and purpose. This has also been a great way to incorporate LifeGroup members who may not have significant LifeGroup responsibilities just yet. As we pray for each other and our community, we’ve seen the Spirit bring us closer to God and each other.

• How’s big of a role does prayer take in your LifeGroup?

• What’s one thing you and your LifeGroup can do to grow in praying together?

Consumer or Committed?

Scripture reminds us over and over again that life is not primarily about us. Jesus says those who lose their lives will find it (Matt 10:39). A disciple of Jesus is someone who daily picks up their cross (Matt 16:24), constantly dying over their demands and preferences (Phil 2:3) to live a life of love (Gal 5:6)

And yet, living in the secular West, a “me-centric” attitude can still creep into our hearts. We use spiritual language to mask consumerist motives, avoid commitment, breed discontentment, and hold close-handed opinions on how we think a church ought to operate. Because this is the water we swim in, we need to constantly be on the alert and keep watch that we don’t succumb to a me-centered outlook.*

Below are some common consumer phrases to watch out for and how to fight against them.

Concerning Sunday Gatherings: 

• “I didn’t feel God because of the song choice.”

• “I don’t like the music style.”

• “I’m not being fed.”

• “I’m more mature. I need deeper teaching.”

• “I don’t love the pastors’ preaching style.”

• “I just feel like I’m not growing.”

• “I’ve learned everything I can here.”

When these phrases are being said, we need to step back and ask, what’s the aim of Sunday Gatherings? The Bible tells us that when the church is gathered we’re called to study Scripture together, pray together, give to the mission of the church (Acts 2:42-47), encourage one another (Heb 10:24-25), and sing together (Col 3:16). In other words, the church is not just an event you attend for spiritual goods and services (asking “what can I get out of it”); it’s a spiritual formation tool with an emphasis on God’s people gathered together. 

This means we don’t expect God to radically change us over the course of a few songs and a 40-minute teaching on a Sunday - as though we have a “microwave” faith expecting instant results if under the right conditions. Rather, the biblical picture is we expect God to slowly change us over the course of years and years of weekly teaching and singing. When we gather together our call is to come with this posture of expectation for the Spirit and Word to shape us for the long haul. 

Concerning LifeGroup/relationships

• “I just wish I had people pouring into me.” 

• “I’m just too old/young/can’t relate.”

• “It’s just exhausting hearing everyone’s sin every week.”

• “I don’t get anything out of it.”

• “I don’t think people are mature enough for me.”

Again, when these phrases are being said, we need to ask what’s the aim of biblical community? Scripture tells us God’s people are called to follow Jesus together, consistently in each other’s lives, practicing the one anothers. In other words, God’s people are called to be a cruciformed people - modeling Jesus in everything including how we interact with one another. While we may certainly have preferences, we must be careful not to assume a church is more holy or less spiritual just because a personal preference isn’t being met. Preferences (whether met or unmet) are not pre-requisites for obedience. Just because people are not in a similar season of life or aren’t in close enough relational proximity, doesn’t excuse us to be faithful. Now, while it may be more difficult to be in someone’s life who’s in a different season of life or level of spiritual “maturity,” it acts as an opportunity to step out of fear and personal discomfort and choose to step into obedience, entrusting that God is sovereign and has you where you are for such a purpose as this.

In thinking through this, one pastor said, “A mature Christian is easily edified.”**  Why? Because followers of Jesus live open-handedly. They may have preferences but they fall to the wayside because they see life is not about them. They see their relationships are committed, not contractual. They see God at work in everything. They see everyone as Image Bearers of God, fearfully and wonderfully made. They see their sin more clearly than anyone else. They are quick to confess (and pre-confess) sins that want to take a foothold. They are quick to listen and slow to speak. They have a posture of humility and service, looking to help others because they see themselves as chief recipients of God’s grace. 

This is the kind of people Jesus wants to make for Himself to bring Heaven down to Earth - servants who lay down their lives to build His kingdom.

Where have you seen consumerism creep into your heart? Have you said any of those common consumer phrases before?

What’s one thing you can do this week to grow as a committed Jesus-centered servant?

*To be clear, there are legitimate reasons to have discontentment in a church, but those reasons are clearly outlined by Scripture. Such examples can include false teaching (Rev 2:14-16), abusive leadership (1 Tim 3:2-3), no fervor for Jesus (Rev 2:4-5), not zealous for good works (Titus 2:14).

**https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/justin-taylor/discussion-on-worship-and-music/

Prophet, Priest, King Assessment

A helpful tool for understanding how God has wired us is the Prophet, Priest, King test. Where Jesus perfectly embodied all three of these, all of us are especially gifted by God in one of these roles for the purpose of serving one another.

Take some time now to fill out the survey. Answer these questions according to who you are, not who you want to be. Choose the answer that is your first instinct, don’t over-analyze. Circle only ONE answer per question. 

1. Are you most frustrated when: 

a. Things are not planned well 

b. Something is not being taught correctly 

c. People are treated poorly 

2. Which best describes you: 

a. Well planned 

b. Knowledgeable 

c. A people person 

3. Are you more likely to be: 

a. Controlling 

b. Harsh

c. Lenient 

4. Do you most naturally lead through: 

a. Delegation 

b. Explanation 

c. Relationships 

5. Are you more likely to see: 

a. What is not working in a person’s way of doing things 

b. What is unbiblical about a person’s way of doing things 

c. If people are being hurt by a person’s way of doing things 

6. Do you evaluate situations by asking what: 

a. Works/doesn’t work 

b. What is right/wrong 

c. What helps/hurts 

7. Would you rather: 

a. Lead a group to accomplish a task 

b. Teach your favorite passage of Scripture 

c. Meet one on one to help someone with a problem 

8. What do you get most excited about: 

a. When things are being run well 

b. The Bible is being taught well 

c. If individual people are being developed well 

9. Would people characterize you as: 

a. Organized 

b. Insightful 

c. Encouraging 

10. People are most likely to say your biggest flaw is: 

a. You are OCD 

b. You are too harsh 

c. You are a pushover 

11. Are you most self-righteous about: 

a. Seeing the big picture 

b. Being accurate 

c. Being well-liked 

12. Which of these would you naturally lean more towards: 

a. Too rigid 

b. Too judgmental 

c. Too timid to confront sin 

13. In your opinion, people: 

a. Are needed to help accomplish things 

b. Need to be taught 

c. Need to be engaged 

14. Do people come to you to: 

a. Help them plan 

b. Help them understand 

c. To have someone identify with them 

15. When you hear a new idea; your first thought is: 

a. How does it work? 

b. Is it true? 

c. How does it affect people? 

16. Would you describe yourself as: 

a. Practical 

b. A visionary 

c. Dedicated 

17. When it comes to people, do you: 

a. Want to tell them what to do 

b. Want to teach them something 

c. Want to protect them 

18. Would your dream job be: 

a. An engineer/manager 

b. A spokesperson/teacher 

c. A social worker/counselor 

19. Are you more: 

a. Directive 

b. Illustrative 

c. Protective 

20. If you are in a big group of people hiking a mountain, do you want to: 

a. Make a plan for hiking the mountain 

b. Communicate the plan to the group 

c. Help make sure everyone makes it to the top 

21. Do you tend to: 

a. Protect the plan 

b. Protect the truth 

c. Protect the people 

22. If you are to assess your intelligence, would you say you have: 

a. Street smarts 

b. Book smarts 

c. People smarts

RESULTS

Once you’ve answered all of these questions, add them up to see what role best suits you. Below is a description of those roles.

a. King

b. Prophet

c. Priest

Kings

Kings are concerned with leadership, details, and systems. Their first question is likely “How will that practically work?” because their mind is always on functionality, order, and effectiveness. They love spreadsheets and to-do lists and plans. They communicate clearly and effectively.

Potential sins and issues: Pragmatism, manipulation, control.

Potential ways to serve in LifeGroup: Rhythm planner, Childcare facilitator, Review the Mission leader

Prophets

Prophets are concerned about truth first and foremost. Their first question is typically “Is that biblically accurate and in step with the gospel?” They are teachers and preachers.

Potential sins and issues: Arrogance, intellectualism, poor listening skills, overbearing demeanor

Potential way to serve in LifeGroup: Sermon Discussion leader

Priests

Priests are especially gifted in caring for people (this is reflected in shepherding language throughout the Bible). Their first question is typically “How will this affect people?” They are good listeners and counselors.

Potential sins and issues: Cowardice, emotionalism, unhealthy concern with how others feel about them.

Potential ways to serve in LifeGroup: Engage the Heart leader, Care Follow-Up leader

How to Study the Bible: Old Testament Narratives

(The following is a modified version of the How to Study the Bible post.) 

The Bible is a complex collection of literature featuring different genres (poetry, history, parables, apocalyptic literature, wisdom literature, etc) all telling one unified story. Because of this, we need to equip ourselves to discern what genre we’re reading, and how to reflect and respond accordingly. 

Old Testament narratives can be confusing or intimidating whether you’re brand new to the Bible or have been following Jesus for a while. Here are some helpful pointers as you study these Old Testament stories.

1 - Remember the Bible is one unified story

While it’s easy to dismiss parts of the Bible that feel less accessible to us, it’s important to know that the Bible tells us of one grand story. If we miss out on the Old Testament we miss out on the richness of the story. And because the Bible is one grand story, God’s character stays consistent from Old to New Testament - He’s not angry in one and then loving in another. Likewise, Jesus loved the Old Testament and meditated on it daily. To dismiss the Old Testament is to dismiss one of the primary tools Jesus used in His spiritual formation (Luke 2:52, 2 Timothy 3:16-17).

2 - Know the difference between descriptive and prescriptive passages

Biblical authors will often communicate historical events as a way to describe what’s going on, not necessarily to commend or condemn those events. This is what’s known as a descriptive passage. 

The question then becomes, what do I do with a descriptive passage? To determine this we look at the surrounding context of the passage and we allow the clearer prescriptive passages to unpack the confusing, descriptive passages.

A couple of helpful resources on this are “Character in Bible Narrative” by The Bible Project and Norman Geisler’s Big Book of Bible Difficulties.

3 - Know the original purpose of the passage

Every book of the Bible was written for a particular people in a particular place. So while the passage is communicating history, there’s also an underlying theology and themes the author wants to communicate to the audience.

Our job is to determine the original meaning of the passage and then apply it to our lives, (known as exegesis.) Conversely, we don’t want to impose our own ideas/cultural interpretations onto a passage and force the passage to mean something it actually doesn’t, (known as eisegesis.) 

The questions we’re looking for are: who’s the author? When was this written? What’s the purpose of the book? What’s the context of when this book was written? (Some helpful resources on this are The ESV Study Bible and The Bible Project.)

4 - Look for examples, whether positive or negative

As you read and reflect on an Old Testament narrative, pay attention to what the characters in the story are thinking/saying/doing. These historical characters are personifying what it looks like to live either in submission or in rebellion to God's will. So our job as the reader is to figure out what we can learn based on what they did (or didn’t do).

At the same time, we don’t sell the text short by only looking for a historical morality lesson. These hundreds of characters are part of a bigger meta-narrative leading us to the main character, which brings us to the last point. 

5 - Ask how it points to Jesus

In Luke 24:27, Jesus tells us that all of the Old Testament points to Him. Jesus is there at the beginning of creation (Gen 1:1, John 1:1), He’s the promised Snake Crusher (Genesis 3:15, 1 John 3:8), He’s from the seed of Abraham (Genesis 12:7, Galatians 3:16), He’s from the line of King David (2 Samuel 7:12-16, Psalm 110:1, Matthew 22:44). So we want to always make sure to read the Old Testament with a Christo-centric lens, making sure to both see the passage in its original context while also noting how it ultimately culminates in the person and work of Jesus. (A helpful resource on this is the Gospel-Transformation Study Bible.)

Reflection questions to ask:

• What does this passage reveal to us about people?

  • Does this narrative provide a positive or negative example?

• What does this passage reveal to us about God?

  • How does this narrative point me to Jesus’/God’s redemptive work in history?

Respond questions to ask:

• What’s this passage calling me to do today?

  • Is there a negative example to warn me of?

  • Is there a positive example to follow?

  • How does God’s redemptive work in the story move me to follow Him more closely today?

• What’s this passage calling me to pray for today?

Other helpful resources on studying the Old Testament:

Anthology sermon series | Anthology Leader Resources

“Plot in Biblical Narrative” The Bible Project

“Character in Biblical Narrative” The Bible Project

“Setting in Biblical Narrative” The Bible Project

“Design Patterns in Biblical Narrative” The Bible Project

The STEWARD Finance Tool

For Christians, stewardship means managing and leveraging our resources to advance Jesus’s kingdom. God desires that we steward well all that He has entrusted to us. This includes our time, talent and treasure. STEWARD helps us consider our treasure. It is about getting financially healthy so that we can live generously. 

S – Start Your Journey to Financial Health (Step 1)

·       Start giving if not currently tithing. - Give to Downtown, Lexington, or Two Notch.

·         Start saving $1,000.

T – Take Ownership (Step 2)

·         Build a budget. You can use the Simple Budget Calculator or the Budget Template tool.

·         Once you’ve established a budget, consider using a money management tool like to following sites/apps to keep track of where your money goes. (Personal Capital, Mint, Acorn, Every Dollar.)

·         Check your credit report.

·         Insure against financial disaster (home/renters, health, life, disability, etc.).

·         Pay off debts (except mortgage). You can use the Debt Snowball tool found here.

E – Expect the Unexpected (Step 3)

·         Save three to six months of living expenses in an emergency fund. 

W – Watch the Clock (Step 4)

·         Invest 15 percent gross income toward retirement.

A – Advance Your Financial Health (Step 5)

·         Increase your giving percentage.

·         Save for college.

·         Identify other 5 to 10-year financial goals (home, car, vacation, etc.).

R – Reside Debt-free (Step 6)

·         Pay off your mortgage.

D – Determine How God Wants to Use Your Financial Health (Step 7)

·         Go where God calls you to go. Give to what and where God calls you to give.

What are your next steps?

What’s your plan for others to hold you accountable?

Why Do We Ask Members to Give 10 Percent?

In the Old Testament, tithing - the giving of a tenth of what someone owned - was part of God’s 611 commands that His people would follow. This was, in part, to follow the example made by their leaders (Gen 14:19-20, Gen 28:20-22) and to support the ministry of the Levites (Lev 27:30–34, Num 18:21, Num 18:26, Deut 12:5-6). On top of the tithe, the Israelites were also expected to give to religious festivals as a way of acknowledging God’s generosity and abundance (Deut 14:22) as well as to give to anyone in need as an act of worship (Lev 25:35-37, Deut 15:7-8, Deut 14:28-29, Ps 41:1-3, 119:36, Prov 11:24-25, 19:17, 21:13, 22:9). One scholar estimated after tithing, giving to their religious festivals, and giving to those in need, the average Israelite gave upwards of 20%.

Tithing isn’t required for New Testament believers in the same way it was for Old Testament believers since we are no longer under the law, however, the principle of generosity is still in place. Generosity, as in the Old Testament, is seen as an act of worship, to support those in ministry, to fund the ministry of the church, and to give to those in need (Matt 6:19-21, 10:42, Luke 6:37-38, 21:1-4, Acts 20:32-35, 2 Cor 8:12-15, 9:6-8, 1 John 3:16-18, 1 Tim 6:17-19).

While there’s no exact number in the Bible to follow as the Israelites did with the 10% tithe, followers of Jesus are still called to give sacrificially because Jesus sacrificially gave Himself for us.

This is what we’re striving for in our covenant practices - to be a compelling people that look like Jesus in everything we do. So the question becomes: How do we know what that looks like? What steps can we agree to do together to practice obedience? What markers or guidelines can we set in place to help each other look more like Jesus?

For our church, giving 10% is the agreed-upon starting point to gauge our generosity. (We often say that 10% is the floor, not the ceiling.) It’s not required to be a Christian, and we’re not required by any law, but it is one of the many diagnostics we use to help lead one another in being a generous people.

Having this tangible marker for a biblical principle is similar to the other covenant practices we commit to doing together. For example, we want people to be in deeply-connected Jesus-centered relationships; a marker for this is to commit to a LifeGroup. We want people to be sacrificially giving their lives away for Jesus; a marker is to serve on Sundays. You won’t see “get into a LifeGroup” or “sign up for a Sunday role” as a requirement or law for New Testament believers, but they are tangible agreed-upon markers of biblical principles that we are called to obey. Similarly, you won’t see “give 10%” for the New Testament believer, but the principle of generosity is found throughout.

Why do we make this a priority of ours? Jesus puts it bluntly in Matthew 6:21, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” In the words of Jesus, following Him requires an aligning of our hearts - and that includes our finances. When we give, we find ourselves literally and spiritually more invested in the things of God than we were before. We are naturally more inclined to care about God’s mission because we are moving our finances that way.

Therefore, we see 10% as the starting point not as “I have to,” but as “I get to.” We get to give back to the mission of God. We get to financially help those in need. We get to create resources for people to be equipped. We get to partner with non-profit organizations all over the city. We get to teach middle and high schoolers about Jesus every week. We get to coach up new parents on how to follow Jesus and love their kids. We get to provide pizza to college students who may not know Jesus. We get to keep the lights on each Sunday so people have a space to gather and worship together. 

Through our committing to give 10%, we get to see our city look more like Heaven each day through our generosity.

Their Story/Your Story/The Story Mission Tool

Click here to go to a downloadable/printable version of this tool.

Everyone has a story. Past, Present, Future.

Beginning, Middle, End.

We all come from somewhere and we’re all are going somewhere. We’re all dealing with life somewhere in the middle right now. The art of learning someone’s story, and sharing your story are essential to building rich friendships as we live on mission. The following tool is one simple way to go about learning these skills. It provides a series of questions in the framework of Past, Present, Future.

DISCLAIMERS:

• Don’t think about any of this as a rigid one-size fits all formula, so much as guardrails to help you get started and troubleshoot as you go.

• This is not intended to be a one-time, one-shot conversation.

• Learning their story and sharing your story could take weeks, months or an entire season. This tool is intended to be used over time as you get to know someone in the context of a real, mutual, loving relationship.

Start by listing some friends and neighbors who don’t know Jesus. Keep them in mind as you work through the rest of the tool.

PART 1: THE PAST

We all come from somewhere. Somewhere that includes a physical place (or places), a family of origin and a series of personal experiences. Everyone’s past provides the context for their entire story. So getting to know someone requires getting to know their backstory. And inviting someone into your life requires sharing yours.

PART 2: THE PRESENT

Regardless of our backstories, we all find ourselves right here and now… dealing with life. Some of us are doing that pretty well, others are really struggling. But how they are dealing with life, and how we deal with life give us a lot of opportunities to share the truth and hope of Jesus.

PART 3: THE FUTURE

In the midst of dealing with our lives, all of us have certain beliefs about what is broken in this world and what would fix it. We all have dreams and hopes about what “the good life” would look like if we ever got there. Tapping into these hopes and dreams helps us get to know people and see places where they have false hopes outside of Jesus.

PART 4: PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

As we get to know their story and share our story, we are always looking for ways we can share Jesus’ story through our story and apply it into their story

Is your Rhythm Set Up for Mission?

Outside of regular LifeGroup time, we encourage groups to have a less structured time that can be more natural to invite friends into. This could be anything from a monthly game night, to lunch after Sunday gatherings, to going to a bar for trivia, to playing in a softball league together.

Rhythms help accomplish two purposes. First, they become something everyone in the LifeGroup can do together. Families naturally make memories and do life together. Second, rhythms can act as a front door to people who are brand-new to Jesus or church. In an ever-increasing secular culture, inviting a friend to a Sunday Gathering may seem intimidating, but they’re far more likely to come to a game night or trivia. The good news is, your LifeGroup doesn’t have to choose between doing something together or being missional. Effective rhythms accomplish both.

Use the questions below to evaluate your rhythms and where your LifeGroup can grow.

Are new people coming into your rhythms regularly?

If new people are not coming around to your rhythms try planning rhythms with particular names and faces in mind. What are some activities the people you are building with would enjoy doing? Are your rhythms consistent enough to where you can constantly invite them even if they can’t attend for a week or do? 

Are your rhythms accessible to Non-Christians?

To a new person, a large group of strangers all doing a deep dive into the Bible or a book study might be a tough sell to someone just trying to dip their feet in.  Think about what your LifeGroup does regularly for rhythms and ask, “Would someone who doesn’t know Jesus be comfortable participating with you and your group?” 

Is your LifeGroup equipped for the next steps?

If/when non-Christians come around rhythms, what then? What conversation do you need to have with them? What do those conversations look like? Is everyone in LifeGroup on the same page and equipped to have those conversations even if they’re not the “point person”? Take some time with your LifeGroup to sync up and equip one another. Remember, being on mission is a team sport.

Does the whole group prioritize rhythms?

Rhythm participation can look different for LifeGroups depending on your season of life. But over a long enough period of time, everyone in the LifeGroup should make rhythms a regular part of their life. Check-in with those who haven’t been able to come for a while and make sure they are doing okay. Narrate the importance of rhythms and why it’s good for them to attend. Is there anyway the LifeGroup can help so that they can participate (i.e. help shuttle a child to a baseball game, find childcare for them, look at their schedule and help them budget their time)?

Is your group in a season to invite new people?

While we generally want to always invite new people in, there are times when LifeGroups may not be in an open season to do this. If you think this is your group, ask your LifeGroup leaders, “Are we in a place to be inviting more people in or not?” Some of these factors may be the group is already too large and the priority needs to be caring for one another and begin to discuss multiplying. Perhaps many in the group are experiencing care issues (grief, trauma, etc) and the best thing for the group is to use that time to care for one another for a season. Perhaps your group has flooded with new people and the main priority is to welcome and onboard them. Whatever the case may be, we want to make sure this is an open conversation with LifeGroup so everyone’s on the same page. (Quick plug: consider using the LifeGroup (re)BootCamp if you need to do a culture reset or if your LifeGroup just multiplied.)

If after some reflection, you are wanting to change the way your group plans rhythms, there are some important things to consider. Check-in with your Lifegroup leader or if you are the leader, check in with your group. Ask how they have been feeling about the effectiveness of rhythms and see if they agree. Go back to the basics and remember why we do rhythms and why they are good for us. So feel free to try some new ideas! 

Currently, how effective are you rhythms?

If your rhythms aren’t as effective as they can be, what are some practical next steps?

Understanding Idolatry

In LifeGroups we practice confessing sin to one another as prescribed in James 5:16 and 1 John 1:5-10. One aspect of confessing sin is through the lens of idolatry. While we may not bow down and worship carved statues, idolatry can mean anything that you worship outside of Jesus to find identity and purpose. A modern idol could be romance, a career, a family, or your personal freedom.

To press this further, there’s a difference between “surface idols” and “deep idols.” A surface idol looks at the external motivation while the deep idol refers to the inward motivation - the sin beneath the sin. We want to be a culture that confesses both - surface and deep idols - to see ourselves more clearly and allow for deeper healing to take place.

Surface Idols – The noticeable sin patterns in your life including thoughts, attitudes, behaviors, etc. These are things that give meaning, hope and purpose to your life other than God. This is what people most regularly confess.

Deep Idols – What is your motivation for sin? Why do you run to those specific surface idols? What are you looking for? Four common deep idols: power, approval, comfort, and control

Below is a helpful diagnostic to determine what deep idols are most prevalent in your life.

Here’s how Jesus speaks into each one of those deep idols. (Also consider using the resource, “Go-to Verses for Gospel Fluency”)

Comfort - Our relationship with Jesus provides never-ending, security, peace, and rest. 

Control - We were never in control anyway, but we serve a God who has sovereign rule over the universe.  In the moment the world looked the most out of control - the death of the Son of God on a cross - God was most in control, working his plan of salvation that he had carried through the ages. 

Approval - We have all the approval we will ever need in Christ. Through Jesus’ work on our behalf we are eternally approved of by the God of all Creation who pours out the love, favor, and acceptance owed to Jesus onto us. 

Power - God has unqualified, limitless power. We no longer have to seek power as we are able to find all the power we’ll ever need in him. We no longer have to exert our will or dominance over others.

What recent surface idols do you need to confess to God and one another?

What deep idol do you see most at work underneath your surface idol(s)? How have you seen that play out?

Go-to Verses for Gospel Fluency

As a church, we strive to make confession and repentance a regular practice - where the culture of LifeGroup is marked by honesty, vulnerability, and reminding each other of Jesus’ righteousness. Having “Gospel Fluency” is how we remind ourselves of Jesus’ work on our behalf. When we confess sin, we want to be quick to offer one another good news before we offer good advice.

Below are some go-to verses for offering good news to others with a brief explanation of how you might apply these verses to yourself or someone in your LifeGroup.

Matthew 3:16-17

And when Jesus was baptized, immediately he went up from the water, and behold, the heavens were opened to him, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and coming to rest on him; [17] and behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.” 

When God sees you, He sees the righteousness of His Son Jesus and not your sin.

John 19:28-30

After this, Jesus, knowing that all was now finished, said (to fulfill the Scripture), “I thirst.” [29] A jar full of sour wine stood there, so they put a sponge full of the sour wine on a hyssop branch and held it to his mouth. [30] When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, “It is finished,” and he bowed his head and gave up his spirit. 

Jesus has paid for all your sin past, present, future. You’re no longer condemned.

Romans 8:1

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 

Through Jesus, you don’t need to condemn yourself over your sin.

Ephesians 1:4-7

even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love [5] he predestined us for adoption to himself as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, [6] to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. [7] In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace

Before time began, God saw you, loved you and chose you.

Ephesians 2:1-10

And you were dead in the trespasses and sins [2] in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience—[3] among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind. [4] But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, [5] even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—[6] and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, [7] so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. [8] For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, [9] not a result of works, so that no one may boast. [10] For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. 

God saved you because of who you believed not because of what you’ve done or will ever do.

2 Corinthians 5:21

For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 

Jesus took on all your sin to give you all His righteousness.

Colossians 1:21-22

And you, who once were alienated and hostile in mind, doing evil deeds, [22] he has now reconciled in his body of flesh by his death, in order to present you holy and blameless and above reproach before him 

Jesus already makes you holy and is in-process of making your experience this more.

Colossians 2:13-14

And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, [14] by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross. 

All your sin was nailed with Jesus on the Cross.

Titus 3:3-7

For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another. [4] But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, [5] he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit, [6] whom he poured out on us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, [7] so that being justified by his grace we might become heirs according to the hope of eternal life. 

Based on what Jesus has done, not anything you do, you are a child of God.

Hebrews 4:16

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. 

Because of what Jesus has done, you can approach God with confidence no matter what.

1 John 1:9

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 

God invites you to confess sin often so you can experience more of God’s forgiveness.

1 John 2:1

My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. [2] He is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the sins of the whole world. 

Jesus is your defender and paid for all your sin.

Which verses stick out most to you? Consider committing those verses to memory.

Who is someone you can “Gospel up” this week in your LifeGroup with one of these verse?